Gender- Defining, But Not Limiting.

This post might get a little "rant-y" just to warn you.

These days gender roles are something that really aren't embraced. The roles of gender are always being challenged and tested. It can be a very touchy subject because there are very strong opinions on the subject. However, it is something that should be viewed from all angles.

I come from a pretty traditional family. I am the middle child with two brothers. However, my older brother is technically my half-brother, biologically, but he is fully adopted into our family. So it's pretty basic. I come from a family that believes in basic gender roles, but we also believe that we are all equal. There is no denying that women are more motherly and men are more tough and less sensitive. Now, that doesn't mean a woman can;t be tough or a man can't be sensitive. However, that is usually how men and women are. Now, I believe in gender roles, I find it is really hard these days to tell people that I wan't to be a stay at home mom because that is odd now-a-days. However, it is said that women should be able to do what they want, but when someone says they want to do something the 'typical' women should want to do like stay at home mom or something like that it is all of the sudden bad. It's like we shouldn't want to do those 'typical' things and if you do you are a submissive woman and you need to stand up for yourself. I do not agree with that. If you believe that women should be able to do everything men can do and should have all the same experiences that should go in every direction. A women should not be looked down upon in society for wanting to be a mom just as she shouldn't be looked down upon if she wants to be in the military or be a cop or anything like that. It has to go in all directions. Gender can be defining,but shouldn't be limiting.

Culture

What is culture anyways?
I feel like our culture is fueled by our traditions. In every culture there are different traditions and beliefs.

Now, every culture is different and within a culture there are many different subcultures. You can generalize a culture by race, religion, and place of living. However, within those very broad cultures there will be more cultures. Then inside those cultures there are more and inside those there are more and so on.

Now, thinking about family culture, what is your family culture and where did it come from? Do you have traditions from your parents? Your grandparents? your spouses parents? that means you are a mesh of a whole bunch of different cultures. However, the beauty of having your own family is that you get to decide what your culture will be like. You can decide to uphold certain traditions and not others. You get to decide your culture that you will pass on to other generations and that is amazing. The way you decide to run your home and incorporate your culture into your family life will greatly influence how that culture continues for quite a few generations.

Be proud of your culture. Be proud of your traditions. And be the person you want to be.

Population, Brith Rate, adn Fertility Rate

What a crazy topic.

I never thought this would impact me very much. Between 1946 and 1964 is when the baby boom was a very big topic. I always thought that the baby boom had to do with families having lots of children, but in reality it's not just about family having children, but about a lot more people living into adulthood and people living longer.

On this subject, the fertility replacement rate is 2.13. That means that each family needs to have 2.13 children to keep the worlds population from decreasing. So that bring up the question: How many children do I need to have? and Does my decision of how many children I have effect other people?

I don't know the answer to that, but I have some thoughts on it.

Children are such a gift and people get lost in the fact that they want to be 100% financially stable to have children. That probably wont ever happen. There are always going to be IF's, AND's or BUT's that will deter you from having children. There are always things to think about when you want to decide when to have children and how many to have, but limiting yourself by your fears of finances is something that we need to get passed.

Having children is one of the greatest experiences that anyone will ever have in their lifetime. I don't have children myself as of yet, but I know that when I do I will find a new level of love that I have not experienced before.

If you are debating when to have children and how many you have, I challenge you to make a pro's and con's list. Then look at your con's and just decide if those are con's that would really be problem of if you could get past it. Whether it be finances, or less sleep, or worried it will effect your marriage. Look at it from a different perspective. For fiances, cut back on a few luxuries. Sleep, have a schedule and keep to it. Effecting your marriage, have faith in your marriage and have a talk with your spouse and create a plan.

Children will never come at the perfect time because the perfect time rarely exists. Don't be selfish. Think of those children waiting to meet yo and waiting to be loved by you.

Ultimately, it's your decision. Just remember not to be selfish.

Introduction

Hello! I am Emma Bruning! I am married to Nicolas Dorsett. As you may have noticed that we have different last names.. thats because changing your name is a little more complicated than I had initially thought so for now, I am still Emma Bruning! One of these days I will get around to officially becoming a Dorsett! I am from Northern Virginia and I loved it there, but I am so glad to be out west! I was born in Lehi, UT and lived there for about 8 years and I did the majority of my growing up in the suburbs of Virginia. It is much different out there than Rexburg. Idaho. Here I can walk around at night and lot be as worried. I don't have to walk around every corner ready to run the other way if I see something sketchy to save by booty. So that's nice. I love pretty much anything and everything! Except when it comes to food.. I am so picky about trying new foods and I really don't like bold flavors. But anything else, I am on board. I love everything. I love photography (in fact I am starting up a buisiness I will link my website here), cooking, decorating, make-up, video games (more specifically Bioshock, Minecraft, Harvest Moon, Left 4 Dead, etc.), writing, superheros, action movies, Disney, DC comics, cleaning (yes, cleaning), guitar, song writing, singing, photoshop, and blogging!

I feel like I am kind of strange person, but I love it! I have learned to love everything about me. I used to be a very insecure person, but I have gotten over that since getting out of high school a few years ago. My motto has become: "How can you love someone with all of you when you can't even love yourself?"

That's about it! This post will also be found in the 'About Me' tab above!