Transitions in Marriage

Marriage is not the end of the road. Sometimes, as young adults, marriage can seem like the finish line. Like "YAY WE MADE IT!" but in reality it is just the beginning.You have you first learn how be married. Especially, if you haven't been living with that person... moving in is a BIG adjustment. Deciding who can put what where and figuring out if they like to have their stuff moved, etc. That takes a while to get used to. Even getting used to sleeping at night with someone, merging your finances, deciding where you want to live, deciding where to go for the holidays, learning to cope with difficult situations, and the list goes on and on.

Then you throw in having children! Now talk about stress. Not only do you have to support yourselves, but now a tiny person who can do absolutely nothing on their own. And if you both have jobs, who will watch the child? Will you put them in daycare or will one of you quit your job? Then if you quit your job will you even be able to afford the child? The stress continues to grow. But it also will grow you two together and creating a family will bond you together and your love will increase for one another.

Lastly, when the children are all gone. You are all by yourself again like before you had children, only this time you have a few more wrinkles on your face and your hair may be getting a little ashy, but now what? What do you do without children. You once again have to adjust your lifestyle and continue to build your relationship while you watch your children do the same.